“The Tao Made Easy: Timeless Wisdom to Navigate a Changing World” by Alan Cohen
In around 4th century BC, a Chinese man called Lao Tse (meaning “old master”) was appointed by the king of the Zhou Dynasty to the prestige position of keeper of the imperial archives. It was a turbulent time, with wars, divisive politics, and moral decay which eventually took their toll on Lao Tse and left him yearning for simplicity, harmony, and integrity. And so, at an old age, he eventually packed up and set to leave the city to live a more natural, and saner, life in the countryside.
As he was about to walk pass the western gate of the kingdom, a guard recognized him and pleaded to him to record his wisdom before he leave for good. And thus, Lao Tse then set brush to parchment and started to write down the 81 stanzas of Tao Te Ching (meaning “The Book of the Way of Virtue”). It was said that it only consist of 5000 written characters, but it covers all the sources of human suffering and their cure.
Tao Te Ching later becomes the most translated, interpreted, and printed book in history second only after the Bible. To date (or at least until the publication of this book by Alan Cohen) there are 1216 books related to Tao Te Ching currently in print, including, as Cohen remarks, “the revered translation by Gia-Fu Feng and Jane English; Dr. Wayne Dyer’s popular Change Your Thoughts—Change Your Life; and the immortal surfer version, Dude De Ching.” (yeah, I should really check out Dude De Ching after this).
So what could Cohen possibly add to this pool of Dude De Chings? He decided to select the most significant themes of Tao Te Ching, provide more explanation about them, and apply them to the modern 21st century context. And I must say, for a person who once attempted to read one of the [poor] translations of Tao Te Ching (by James Legge), this one is like a breath of fresh air.
It is written in a laid back (and sometimes funny) manner, making it enjoyable to read especially considering the heavy nature of the subject, but without losing its clear and concise way to teach us about the core messages.
For example, just look at the way Cohen describes what the Tao is: “While it appears that the universe is a foolish, even cruel play of random events, there is an intelligence operating behind the scenes, a fabric of life that integrates all creation. This power is invisible to the eye, yet more real than anything the senses can touch. It is a mystery to the intellect but knowable to the heart. It is life itself. Lao Tse called this power “the Tao,” or “the Great Way.””
Indeed, some call it God, others describe it as the universe. And Cohen? He elaborates this message by talking about The Force, like, in the Star Wars kind of way. Talking bout 21st century context, eh?
But this book is not all about modern interpretation of Tao Te Ching. When needed to make a point, Cohen also provide wisdom from the original stories, such as Lao Tse’s lesson after a student asks him about the validity of an astrologer: “All sciences are valid depending on how they are used. If they empower you to live more fully, they help. If they make you feel like a puppet on a string that someone else is pulling, they hurt. A knife can be used to heal through surgery or it can kill. It’s all what you do with it.”
Lao Tse then continues, “You should look within for your answers. Your life is not determined by the stars. It is determined by your state of mind and the choices you make. Regardless of how the stars are configured, you are in charge of your journey. Make healthy choices, and even if adversity comes, the Tao will show you how to use it for your benefit.”
But then when you think it’s about to get serious, Cohen then proceeded to talk about his male puppy trying to hump his older female dog. As Cohen told the story, “All of our dog expert friends told us that our nine-month-old male puppy was too young to mate with our older female. But he didn’t get that memo. One night while my beloved Dee and I were sitting in our living room, we heard a sharp yelp from the kitchen. We rushed in to find the little guy stuck to the older woman. They remained interlocked for 45 minutes with a baffled look on their faces: “Now what do we do?””
What could possibly be the moral story from this hilarious encounter? “The best things that happen are unplanned”, the great master would say. Because, get this, that little geezer impregnated the older dog and Cohen and his wife suddenly have little joyous puppies!
And this is actually what the entire teaching of Tao Te Ching boils down to: Let nature take its course. Cohen then elaborates by categorizing the relationship between cultures and nature into three 1. Man under nature 2. Man over nature 3. Man in nature:
- Man under nature believe the world is ruled by gods, demigods, or any spirits superior to humanity. As Cohen remarks, these beings “chart our destiny, so we lower beings must bow down to them, appease them, make sacrifices, and, whatever you do, don’t piss them off.” Such cultures believe that favorable conditions are given from higher powers, and calamities are forms of punishments from our misdeeds. Cultures like ancient Greek, Roman, and Mayan civilizations are examples of this approach.
- Man over nature regards nature as an obstacle to be tamed or controlled, our enemy to overrun or to subjugate for our purpose. Our technologically bullying culture is a prime example of this, where “we tear down forests, dam rivers, preserve food with chemicals, manipulate genes, and spew toxins in the air with no awareness that when we hurt our planet, we hurt ourselves.”
- Man in nature is actually the only way we were born to live, how we should live. Many cultures that are close to the Earth understand that our purpose in life is to align with nature, thank its Creator, accept its blessings, and give back to it. Native American, First Nation, Aboriginal, Māori, and Hawaiian cultures are some of the examples for this.
This book is ultimately about teaching us to live life according to the third option, man in nature. And it’s such an impactful one.
I must admit, not all section of the book are brilliant. Like in each chapter Cohen somehow inserted a fictional depiction of his own interactions with the old master, in an imaginary way as if Cohen is Lao Tse’s student. Which is super weird. But I treat these episodes like I would treat a drunken uncle that is starting to talk about government conspiracy theories, sure it’s wacko but there are some truths in it somewhere. Besides, had these stories been true, it would actually be insightful.
And one last note, it is particularly astonishing for me that a lot of the messages from Lao Tse are similar like Stoicism. Such as “what’s in the way is the way” is similar with Stoicism’s the obstacle is the way. Or “let nature take its course” is similar like let things happen naturally. Or Stoicism’s core message of focus on what you can control, can also be seen in Tao’s “sometimes you can change the environment. Always you can change your mind” and its examples in chapter “How to fix the world.”
Moreover, Tao Te Ching, according to Cohen, is also similar like the content of the Gospel of Thomas. And in this book Cohen also tells the story of Siddhartha Gautama to illustrate a Tao lesson. So, I guess that quotation from the Rig Veda is spot on, “all truth is one, the sage call it by many names.”
Here are some of the most memorable quotes from the book:
- You don’t have to tell the Force how to help you. You just have to let it find you and work for you and through you.
- Our dilemma is not that we do not have an invincible Source; our dilemma is that we do not realize It exists and we do not make use of It.
- If you knew who walks beside you on the path that you have chosen, fear would be impossible.
- Life does not go in circles. It is constantly cycling upward. Let cycles play themselves out and they will reveal their purpose to you.”
- “The heart knows the answers to the questions the mind cannot satisfy,”
- Victor Hugo said, “Nothing is as powerful as an idea whose time has come.” If your idea is aligned with the Tao, it will have a life of its own and it will reach all the right people in the right way at the perfect time. You will watch in awe as the river carries your boat to the ocean. When nature takes its course, there is no stopping it.
- The tribe realizes that correction is achieved not by punishment, but by remembering who we truly are.
- Lao Tse would agree that our true self knows how to live. When we live according to our nature, we don’t need anyone else to prescribe our path for us.
- We know all we need to know from the inside out. Rules are for people who have lost touch with their inner guidance. Laws are also misused by unscrupulous leaders to control others for self-serving purposes.
- In our society, however, many of us have become disconnected from our innate wisdom. We don’t trust ourselves, so we depend on external authority to tell us how to live. It seems easier to obey than to think. We entrust our lives to government, religion, education, economics, medicine, culture, and family.
- Those who stand on tiptoe are not steady. Those who stride cannot maintain the pace. Those who put on a show are not enlightened. Those who are self-righteous are not respected. Those who boast achieve nothing. Those who brag will not endure. According to followers of the Tao, “These are unnecessary food and baggage.” They do not bring happiness. Therefore followers of the Tao avoid them.
- Give up sainthood, renounce wisdom, And it will be a hundred times better for everyone. Give up kindness, renounce morality, And people will rediscover filial piety and love.
- No act is always right or always wrong. If someone took a hatchet and broke into your house to steal something, it would be wrong. But if your house was on fire and a firefighter broke into your house with a hatchet to extinguish the fire, you would be grateful.
- to let ourselves be guided by internal wisdom rather than external opinion. This is the mark of a mature soul.
- Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true.
- You can manufacture heaven or hell with your thoughts and live in that world as if it were real. But when you wake up from the dream your mind has fabricated, reality remains intact.
- Tao Te Ching tells us that ultimate reality is benevolent. A Course in Miracles underscores, “Only the creations of light are real. Everything else is your own nightmare.” So if you are going to “create” a “reality,” be sure to create one that matches what has already been created. Then the Tao will be at your back like a firm wind that powers sailors home to port after a long day at sea.
- When this small group came to a red light, they stood at the crosswalk, waiting for the light to turn green to cross the street. There was no traffic and their lives were in danger, but still they had to obey the rules and not be guilty of jaywalking! This is a clear example of denying one’s fundamental instinct in order to follow social rules. At that moment the regular rules were totally inappropriate. It was culturally illegal for them to cross against the red light, but spiritually legal for them to protect their lives.
- Specific tasks do not create struggle. What makes a situation hard is the struggle attitude we bring to it. We resist a circumstance or believe it must be hard, and so it is. Not because struggle is required, but because our thoughts are powerful and we can create experiences by our belief. If you resisted nothing, you would never feel like you were working.
- Just because so many people are in pain, or your life has been so painful, does not mean that is the way it has to be. It just means that we have historically chosen to fight our way upstream rather than flow with the current. What we call history is largely the record of fear-based human choices moving contrary to the Tao.
- Hold foremost in your mind the result you would rather create. Fight for your valued goal instead of fighting against the situation you do not prefer.
- If something comes up that you wish would go away, accept that it has come for a reason and consider how you can benefit from the experience. How is this situation stimulating you to grow in ways that you would not have grown had it not come forth? Is there an unseen opportunity here? Are you being guided to make a course correction that will ultimately improve your life? Every difficulty comes with a gift in its hands. It remains a problem until you accept the gift.
- Life becomes difficult when you attempt to do things that don’t belong to you. It becomes easy when you do what belongs to you. In these last two sentences you just read the cheat sheet for the entire Tao Te Ching.
- Painful events are not a punishment or our destiny. They are an alarm clock waking us to return to the kindly universe we have turned our backs on, and claim the well-being we deserve.
- Only when we address the source of our problems do we heal their manifestations.
- This story illustrates two key principles underlying sustained healing: (1) Real transformation occurs not simply by manipulating the symptoms, but by going to the core and addressing the fear, pain, and beliefs that are causing the symptoms; and (2) Healing occurs through release or forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean that we condone abuse or cruelty. To the contrary, it means that we love ourselves enough to not accept negative behaviors directed at us. We further honor ourselves by deciding that letting go of the past will bring us greater benefit than holding onto it. When we can drop grievances and step fully into the present moment, we are free.
- The goal of changing other people to make you happy is fruitless. Get over it. You may be able to nag or intimidate someone to change, but inwardly the other person will resent you and look for ways to rebel, sabotage, or leave. Forced change is not true change; a backlash always follows.
- Sometimes you can change the environment. Always you can change your mind. If you can change your environment from a sense of positive vision, you will succeed. Remember to work toward what you want rather than against what you resist. All metaphysical teachings tell us that the world we see is a projection of the thoughts we are holding about it. To attempt to change the world without changing your mind is tantamount to making a run on the screen in a movie theater and trying to force the images to do something different. If you want to see a different movie, you must change the film in the projector. The film is your thoughts. The screen is the world. Insert a new film, and everything you see on the screen will be different.
- Someone who is mean and manipulative is steeped in fear, the densest of energies. When you grow fearful, upset, angry, or resistant, you match the negative frequency of the person you dislike. You are locked into a painful cycle by energetic agreement. You have no hope of escaping their influence because you are operating at precisely the same frequency. When you choose a higher frequency, you rise above the denser energy.
- Someone who is mean and manipulative is steeped in fear, the densest of energies. When you grow fearful, upset, angry, or resistant, you match the negative frequency of the person you dislike. You are locked into a painful cycle by energetic agreement. You have no hope of escaping their influence because you are operating at precisely the same frequency. When you choose a higher frequency, you rise above the denser energy.
- If you want someone to change, model the energy and behavior you wish that person would exhibit. Then you will achieve two crucial goals: (1) You will establish yourself in the strongest position to influence the other person to act uprightly; and (2) You will find the inner satisfaction you sought by attempting to change the other person.
- Be not deceived by ups and downs that occur in the short run, or appearances of disorder. No matter what evil or error seems to rule, truth eventually makes itself known, character is revealed, and virtue prevails.
- The question, “What do you really need?” is the meditation of a lifetime. If you can distinguish between what you think you need and what you really need, you will realize that your true needs are far less than you have been taught, and you are always provided for.
- The more you know, the less you need.
- This brings us to a crucial point about how the Tao works. If a partner, job, or home belongs to you, it will be yours. If not, it will not come, and, believe me, you don’t want it. Something else that is truly yours will find you. We own things not by money or paperwork, but by right of consciousness. What is yours will know your face.
- The system of Chinese medicine is based on the flow of chi, life force. As long as chi is flowing, you are healthy. When chi is blocked or for any reason does not reach a part of the body, illness ensues. To restore health, get chi moving again.
- When you withhold money, kindness, or support from others, you are withholding wealth from yourself. It is a fundamental psychological principle that we expect others (and life) to do to us what we do to or for them. Generous people expect the universe to be generous with them, and it is. Stingy people expect the universe to withhold from them, and it does.
- When Jesus said, “Do unto others as you would have them to do unto you,” he was actually saying, “What you do unto others you are doing unto yourself.”
- Life is simple unless we make it complicated. The ego thrives in complexity while the spirit thrives in simplicity.
- The more complexity, the more issues. The more simplicity, the fewer difficulties. If you find yourself in a complicated situation, look for the simple way out.
- Resist change and you suffer. Accept it and you are free.
- When you are with people you love, imagine you may never see them again. Be fully present with them. Speak the words you wish for them to hear. Thank, honor, acknowledge, and celebrate them. They are in your life for a blessed season that bestows its unique gifts. Don’t miss a moment of loving. Leave nothing unsaid or undone.
- Soul mates are not just romantic partners; they are all the people with whom you connect at a soul level. Some soul mates bring you immense delight, and others are extremely challenging. Some are both.
- The secret to successful relationships is to let every relationship be what it wants to be.
- If you try to end a relationship before it has fulfilled its purpose, it will just keep coming back. Many couples break up or get divorced, and other individuals distance themselves from families or friends. But somehow life draws them together.
- Because we are spiritual beings at our core, it is the spirit of a relationship that brings us fulfillment. It matters less what the bodies are doing. You may live under the same roof with someone and sleep beside them, yet feel worlds apart. You may also have friends at a far distance with whom you feel deeply united. Relationships are about souls more than bodies.
- If there is one thing in the world that we can depend on, it is change. Lao Tse calls us to not resist change, but to let it empower us. The more you fight change, the more it overwhelms you. The more you flow with it, the more it strengthens you.
- If we fear to take that first step ahead, we might be tempted to glamorize the past or reactivate it to escape present discontent.
- It is said, “Man’s [or woman’s] rejection is God’s protection.”
- As much as we would like to hold on to sweet situations forever, we must let go when they have run their course.
- Regret is time doubly wasted. If you made a mistake, you may believe that a moment or years were for naught. If you regret your mistake, you are wasting the current moment as well. If you learned from the mistake, the time and experience were worthwhile.
- Be grateful, then, that you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, or fed up with what is not feeding you. Toleration of dysfunction only keeps it in force. Refuse to put up with what is not working, and you will find your way to your perfect place in the Great Design.
- We have become so accustomed to dysfunction and toxicity that we fail to recognize when it has passed a critical threshold.
- Bless your wake-up calls. They are the Tao benevolently reaching from reality into illusion to rescue you from further pain.
- Any expression of mean-spiritedness or cruelty is a sign that you are in pain and you are attempting to relieve yourself of your discomfort by passing it along to others.
- If you say you are going to do something, do it. If you make a plan, follow through. If you schedule an appointment, show up on time. If you borrow money, pay it back. If you are not sure you can do something, don’t promise it.
- Patience is one of the most valuable virtues we can cultivate in a lightning-speed world.
- Impatience means that you do not trust the Tao to deliver what you need when you need it. Patience means that you have faith that the Tao is with you right where you stand.
- Presence makes the crucial difference in human interactions. In a world in which many people have given their presence and power away to busyness and technology, fully being with another person is more important than ever.
- Robert Brault suggested, “Do not call any work menial until you have watched a proud person do it.”
- The Tao cannot be prescribed for you. It must emerge from within you. You will not master your life by pleasing others. You will master it by aligning with yourself.
- The God that you have been taught is out there somewhere, is in here. External temples are reflections of the inner sanctuary. If they do their job properly, they will lead you home to yourself. If they lead you elsewhere, run like hell.
- Humble people are confident because they recognize the Tao is the source of their good.
- When we renounce our demands on the world, we gain the freedom and peace that we hoped constant control would bring us, but never does.
- Be not deceived by those who appear to thrive by amassing power, fame, and worldly accolades. These are but cheap trinkets, glittering toys to distract and amuse the unawakened.
- Lao Tse sees education and enlightenment from a different perspective. He would say that you are not here to learn something you do not know. You are here to remember what you already know. The spiritual path is not a learning curve. It is a refresher course. You were born knowing.
- It’s extremely difficult to teach people who are not motivated to learn, by teachers who would rather be elsewhere.
- If your life is not working, a little or a lot, tell the truth about how you feel about what you are doing, and what you would rather be doing. In that one honest statement you take a major step to reclaim the Tao.
- Lao Tse came to the same realization. He cautioned against excesses and extremes, and advised us to live with equilibrium. The famous yin-yang symbol of Taoism captures this principle, illustrating the existence of opposites and our need to integrate them: light and dark, life and death, male and female, good and evil, joy and pain. To deny opposites sets us up for suffering. To recognize them and make them work on our behalf yields mastery.
- Too much of anything, the master taught, is no good. Too little of anything is no good. We must each find our “sweet spot,” the just-right integration of contrasting elements that, when we step into it, makes us both happy and productive.
- Everyone has a piece of the puzzle of life, but no one has the whole picture. An ancient parable tells about an elephant that wandered into a village of blind people. Not knowing what an elephant was, the villagers began to examine the huge animal with their hands. One man grabbed the elephant’s trunk and declared, “An elephant is like a snake.” Another wrapped his arms around the creature’s leg and announced, “An elephant is like a tree trunk.” Another touched the tail and told, “An elephant is like a rope.” All of the blind people were partially correct, but none of them were totally correct. They accurately identified the parts, but none of them identified the whole, which was far greater than any one person could embrace or, from their limited perspective, understand.
- So it is with truth. All religions, philosophies, and lifestyles capture a piece of the Big Picture, but none capture all of it. Some arrogantly tout, “My way is the way and the only way.” But humility would recognize that there are many paths to the mountaintop. Religious wars, inquisitions, crusades, and missionary movements all spring from insecurity. “You must believe as I do. If not, you will go to hell, or I will kill you,” speaks of deep primal fear. If our world is ever to come to peace, we must grow beyond such immaturity.
- To put the puzzle together, we must acknowledge the contribution of each philosophy as well as its deficits. Every belief system contains an element of truth and an element of illusion. Purists of each belief spotlight the value of that path, but they also magnify its shortcomings.
- Life has already set it up by making indulgence in extremes self-policing. When we swing too far to one end of the pendulum, we are forced in the opposite direction. After experiencing both polarities, we extract the best of both worlds and find a middle way that works.
- Religions were founded by prophets who had lofty visions and noble intentions to bring healing and upliftment to the world. But then people with selfish motives infiltrated religions and twisted the faith to their own foul purposes. While elements of religion remain pure, other elements fall to evil, represented by the dark dot in the light field.
- On the other side of the spectrum, for every dark experience, something good comes of it. Sickness is an invitation for a course correction to improve the quality of your life. Painful relationships move you to honor yourself and claim better. Losing a job can motivate you to create a more meaningful, passion-filled career. Overbearing monarchs incite downtrodden people to establish democracies. The crucified and resurrected Christ taught that he—like all of us—is greater than the body. Like the white dot within the black space, the spiritual master finds light in the midst of the darkness.
- Masters of the Tao keep their head in the clouds and their feet on the ground.
- Paradox delivers the ultimate teaching of balance: two ideas that appear to be contradictory are simultaneously true. Herein lies your point of power. If you can accept the reality of two apparent opposites, you are at altitude on the mountain of mastery. The thinking mind goes haywire when it attempts to integrate polarities.
- Seek perfection but allow for imperfection. Let what appears to not be working be a part of what is working. Let night and day make each other more poignant. Let evil give way to good. Allow what seems apart to come together. Life is not a question of balance. Balance is the answer to the questions of life.
- True artists merge with the Tao and disappear into their work. The artist and the art become one. The small self becomes a vessel for the Grand Self and is indistinguishable from the Source.
- To enter the Zone your mental and emotional state must match it. That configuration is never based on the dense frequencies of struggle, pain, sacrifice, resistance, or complaint. It is always based on the higher frequencies of joy, trust, flow, and positive vision. If you are angry, upset, or defiant, you can’t get there from here. You need to elevate your consciousness. You can’t get to something you love by doing something you hate. You can’t get to ease by way of struggle; to peace by way of conflict; to wholeness by way of sacrifice; or to self-affirmation by way of self-denial. You have to attain a state of being that is closer to the experience you desire.
- Lao Tse would not call himself a Taoist. Noble and helpful as the religious tradition is, the old master could not live inside a case. Even while Lao Tse warned against efforts to organize truth, an “ism” has grown up around his teachings. If I had to join a religious movement, Taoism would be a worthy prospect. But I would not find Lao Tse at its meetings.
- All beliefs are temporary and ultimately evolve to something different. There will come a time when everything you now believe will not be true for you. As much as you are sure you know how it is, one day you will change your mind about how it is. Never argue that your way is the only way or the right way. One day you will be proven wrong, even to yourself.
- The need to be right is what makes things go wrong. If insecure religions, political parties, cultures, teachers, spouses, and parents would just quit trying to force others to adopt their beliefs, violence would abate, humanity would grow beyond its dogmatic immaturity, and society would evolve rapidly.
- If you need to be right by making others wrong, you will not find a home in the Tao.
- The only thing worse than discovering that you have been participating in a dysfunctional system is to stay in it.
- Blind faith leaves people sightless. The Tao calls us to never swallow any belief system whole, but to be discerning about what is true and what is illusion laid over truth in truth’s name.
- Give yourself space to be what you are. Give others space to be what they are. Then everything will make itself clear.
- Jesus went into the desert for 40 days, during which he conquered temptation. Moses scaled Mount Sinai and later descended with the Word of God. Muhammad’s first revelation came when he was meditating in a cave on a mountain and was visited by the archangel Gabriel. Then all of these masters returned to the world and delivered the insights they gained. You need not be a religious prophet to benefit from a retreat. Nor do you need to wait until you can get away for a weekend or week. Do it daily. Set up some kind of meditation, prayer, or soul-renewing activity each day. Begin your day with connection to Source and then take space during your day whenever you can, even for a few moments, to energize your spirit. Then, before you go to bed, devote some time to cleanse your thoughts and emotions and prepare you for deep, healing sleep.
- If you are not enjoying what you are doing, either find a way to re-create or reapproach your work, or leave. Do not settle for a boring or oppressive career. Take charge of your vocation and your happiness.
- Jobs don’t make or break our happiness. Only our mind does. Point your mind in the right direction, and you can turn any job into an adventure.
- Life is not happening to you. Life is responding to you.
- Sometimes things have to fall apart before they can come together better. Every difficulty comes with guidance to move in a new direction. Redefine challenge as your friend, and it will prove itself to be so.
- Spiritual teachers have been telling us for millennia that all minds are joined. Now science is demonstrating this profound capacity.
- We can summarize the proper relationship between body and spirit with one simple word: priorities. Which comes first: Love or stuff? Connecting or dividing? Winning or joining? You don’t have to slice away or deny your bodily activities. Just keep them in order.